I'm a software engineer in early middle age, I've been lurking and dating on AFF, off and on, since I was a thirty-something. There seem to be a few more people on than there were a few years back, so I'm giving it another try. I was never a big one for nightclubs, I wanted to "do stuff" (still do!) but couldn't get that turned on by a shouted conversation with a stranger. Ground Rules: 1) Chat on here, then coffee, then see what we think of each other. 2) (And so) I will not be driving to meet you within five minutes of connecting on here! 3) no face&nude shots, some people have them as profile pics, good luck to you, but not my thing. If you haven't been put off so far: 4) Outside of committed relationship I use condoms for everything more involved than sucking nipples. 5) I'm not interested in being a revenge shag, or bit on the side, I'm here to have fun, not to hurt people. 6) I prefer sex while sober. Yes it can be a bit strange meeting up with someone in Starbucks, discretely mentioning usernames, and then talking about the weather with someone who's already seen your bits, no I don't think I've got used to it yet, but it's all part of playing safely. I'm not averse to starting a relationship. (My best ever first date was with someone I met on here, and we didn't even kiss that night.) And have the normal hobbies, photography, crafting, and re-enactment, I've got a full clean driving license as well. Sexually I'm not fond of role play, but I'm up for games, and I do like toys. (My username is from an electroplay phase I went through.) I'd like to think that I'd try anything, I've never done anything with guys, not even been watched, not counting it out, just not seeking it. One of my exes got me into figure photography with corsetry, would be interested in helping with other people's scenes. D&D free, WASP.

Min Idealperson Honest, responsible and can hold a conversation.